Friday Reflection: You can do YOU!

I have learned that people have the power to set limits for you if you allow what they say about you exist in your life. I have been told many times that I wouldn’t make it, this isn’t for you, and why are you doing that. It’s a wicked beast of negative energy that creates a sense of defeat before the task even begins. We manage to use the thoughts of others to create our dreams and sometimes are nightmares; being lured down roads that we never wanted to travel. Impressed by the insight of others, which guides us to believe that what they share is valuable, but finally hitting the dead end of should’ve, could’ve, would’ve. All the ingredients for misguided journey.

I have been there; the kids always relying on what someone else thought about my goals and using their guidance to make my decisions. In these incidences I have found that by doing that I have involved myself in things that were not reflective of me or my vision. It’s like I was borrowing someone else’s glasses which blurred my outlook on my own life. Why do we allow this energy? Why do we feel that what others speak on us is the absolute and final thought? We must do some rethinking. Allow suggestions and take from them what you may; always realizing that you have the final say. Negative people will bring down every positive goal you have for yourself. Most of the time this is simply called envy. We live in a world that wants what others have without doing the work to get there. Once we realize someone else wants that same thing, but wants to do all that is needed to achieve; we hate. They bash the idea of obtaining it and pour you a stiff glass of negative juice for you to swallow. Now you have drank yourself out of the idea and have started traveling down a road that is completely opposite of you.

We have to start evolving into the people that others dared us not to be. The ones who only focus on our growth instead of the growth of others. It’s harsh to say, but we must learn to be selfish. Not in the sense of sharing toys, but the sharing of personal goals and ideas. Just think about it; when you express to others your desires in life, what are the top three reactions? I’ll wait……………….think you have them? Those reactions are Lack luster excitement, sarcasm, and 50 follow-up questions that will have you talked out of your own desires and bring you back at point zero. No one likes competition! We all want the awards, but that’s a sick and immature way of existing. All things need to compete and competition is a healthy way of realizing what it takes to be a champion. Be all that others said you couldn’t be whether you win or lose; knowing that the reward is in going forth and completing the task. There is still a reason why you started and a plan that you developed that will leave those who doubted you gasping; wondering how the heck you did that.

It’s easy! Leave them wondering and trying to figure out what’s going on. Keep your thoughts and vision quiet and see what grows. Toxic energy kills positive vibes, so why foster your hopes and dreams off of bad influence? Stop the act of telling the world who and what you want to be. Do the work and then let the story tell itself. Do the things people said you couldn’t and work hard to complete it in a way that leaves them confused and guessing? I tried it and it worked. There are a lot of things I wasn’t supposed to be because of what others thought of me. I had to reprogram my thoughts to understand that I have what it takes to be better than their beliefs. I have to simply do me.

I was told I wasn’t a good writer…………but now I have my own personal blog and readers who enjoy the content.

I was told I wasn’t talented……………….but I dance, sing, and play three different instruments.

I was told I wouldn’t grade college………but I did with honors and have three degrees to prove it.

I was told I was average……………………but I’m doing superior things.

I was told I would never make it…………and I’m still standing.

I have overcome those toxic thoughts of others and cleaned my own lens to see the masterpiece that is me. Simply do you and wash away those stamps of negative thoughts of being. Do not allow others to vacation in your thoughts, dreams, and outcomes. You have the power to be you.