Straight to the Point Saturday….

When it’s over it’s over. The reason why I have a real issue with forget. I have heard it many times before that one must totally forgive a person before they can fully move on. It is with those words that I have tried my hardest to forgive every person who has wronged me. Some people who will never believe that their actions were hurtful, are too forgiven for their ignorant moments. It’s the forgetting part that leaves me stuck. Its the reappearance of my stubborn nature to not be easily moved or convinced to foolishly re-position people back in my life. For me….when you F up you simply F’d up for life. It’s hard to come back from things that felt like a jab at the heart. There is really no turning back the hands of time to rewrite the story of us…friend, family, or love. I just have a really hard time forgetting.

I’d like to focus on the second definition of forget; the inadvertently neglect to do. It is this part here that makes it very hard for me to forget. In any relationship each person has the ability to do..some more the others. It’s the things that we neglect to do that makes it hard for me to resist the urge to simply forget. Oh you forgot to be a good friend or you forgot that my secret was simply that “a secret”. How about you neglected my feelings when you stated that “I couldn’t be trusted”. All because you were wrong about your perception of what you thought, which turned out to be completely false. With that, one has neglected my feelings and forgot that their actions would enviably be something I would not forget. It’s the neglect of valuing others that make forget something that I will not do.

Now yes…this may be petty and I have never stated that I wasn’t apart of the Petty Betty club, but actions are true mirrors to ones inner feelings. One doesn’t wake one day and say I’m going to be disloyal today…no they have always had the desire to do so. It’s sometimes in their DNA. It was just that this time you might have been the target, so you won’t forget how those actions made me feel. Now we get why I don’t forget at all.

Some things, we never ever forget — accepting what they have done will cause you to move on with a snapshot of behaviors that will decrease your chances of being played again. So yea….I don’t forget, but note that I will not carry you in the same light as you were before you neglected to be a person a loyal nature. No matter how much time has passed your face will forever be attached to your actions or words. Note: I can recall the things people said back in elementary school. I just don’t play around with forget.

mOOd: I never forget how a person made me feel.