Can you……..ummmmmm NO!
It’s May 1st. I don’t know if I’m more excited about the promise of warmer weather or the ending of another dreaded school year. All I know is that every year around this time I feel the need to not only clean my space, but my outlook as well. It’s like the residue of Fall/Winter have left a tarnished brown coating of existence that has clouded my judgement and tinted my vision. With today being the first of May, I am able to begin to see again. So I say all this to say that today for the month of May….I am saying YES to No. It’s a little necessity I picked up from my home-girl Shonda Rhimes who provided me with the know how on saying yes to no. The thought of this process makes me smile. It releases me from being way to nice to the wrong damn people. Accepting invitations for things I don’t want to attend. How about giving a damn when I really don’t feel like being involved. Being a patient and silent team player to avoid sharing to much because think I’m doing the most. Saying YES to No is about finally releases myself from the hands of others. I simply say NO!!
Saying Yes to No gives me the freedom to come and go as I please. It takes me from functioning as a guest in my own dwelling to sitting on my throne as the King of this castle. Yes to No means that I no longer have to feel guilty about telling others no for things I simply can not do. It’s an confident attitude of using a short phrases to end the ongoing banter of” maybe I can”…”let me check my schedule”…or the “ok…I’ll be there”. NOPE! I am waving enthusiastically at NO!
Now that we both will have free time by using the power of NO…..life can begin. No means that we now have the power to focus on self. Engaging in more self-evaluation, self-care, and self-initiative. It provides us with the ability to focus on ourselves and not worry that others have a problem with our ownership of No. People won’t understand your new found freedom and most will think you changed, but you just discovered that every request doesn’t have to follow with a YES…NO is your option and will soon be your best friend. SAYING YES TO NO provides a guide for us to achieve physical, professional, emotional, and spiritual growth. It’s the power that we all should use more option.
mOOd: NO MEANS NO
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