Straight to the Point Saturday

While managing my financial accounts to ensure that everything was in good standing, I thought about my emotional wellness and how that account was slowly slipping into the red. Fearful of being completely depleted I constantly thought of how I neglected balancing my emotional banking account to be sure that it was overwhelming in the green. I was spiraling into an emotional banking devastator and I didn’t need to end 2017 with emotional debt.

So I came across the meaning of emotional debt and it goes a little something like this: EMOTIONAL DEBT –  reflects an inability to process feelings of the moment as well as the record of the person’s unique history. A high emotional debt reveals low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem are more likely to hold on to negative emotions (Viscott, 1996).  So ask yourself the question…..Are you up to your ears in emotional stress?

Are you hoarding a massive amount of emotions? Emotions that are connected to things that have ended, passed, or gone astray. Finding yourself drowning in a ocean of tears, sorrow, and mishaps that isolation is your place of resident, negativity is your security blanket, and another sad life song your soundtrack. Why do we keep sending ourselves past due notices and not doing anything about it. We see the emotional debt that we place ourselves in, but have grown so attached to the feeling of drowning that we have developed no way out. Get free get out of debt now passport and no i’m not talking about the financial debt. Nope! Its the debt that life has placed on you and has created you as an empty and void vessel of positive energy that stacks the bills and avoidance to clearing the dark cloud of emotional stress.

Life is a bank and you are the manager, banker, and the customer. Instead of depositing things that magnify the greatness of life we overdraft those same accounts with stress, hurt and grief until the account is maxed out. To have a healthy account, we need to deposit more than we’re taking out. Throw away the blues and stop purchasing the emotional care package of ice cream, tissues, and baggy sweatshirts on an empty account. Open up those notices and clear the debt away issue by issue. Letting the problem know that you are closing the account and rebuilding a new account that exudes positivity and new beginnings. This process is not hard, but will take a strong mind with an investors heart to confront situations and delete memories.

Negative memories breeds on-going debt. Replaying the VHS tapes of what use to be and trying to figure out where it all went wrong is a way of adding on to the debt. Creating reasons of how, why, and can’t instead of understanding that you are the source behind the debt. The supporting characters are gone and you are left rewinding and pausing the tapes…alone. Everyone else has paid the bill of sadness, while you have acquired the debt.  Use the tapes as a reason to end the piling up of debt; understanding that these are the reasons things went crazy. Knowing this gives you a clear defense when circumstances arise and enter to deplete your emotional account again.  These emotional debts from the past are reflections of the outstanding accounts people have on your life. If you want to free yourself, then throw out the garage and include the memories (VHS tapes) with it.

So how do we change the way we handle how we balance our emotional state of being. We must:

1. Resolve the issues that are unresolved.
2. Confront your negative balance by being honest with yourself.
3. Seek a financial advisor (friend, God, or a positive hobby).
4. Close individual accounts that weaken your credit history.
5. Stop overspending your emotions on things that don’t require your emotional attention.

So we all like to maintain a positive financial lifestyle, we must decide today to live with a healthy emotional account. Learning to be honest with our current circumstances and beginning to develop a progressive emotional banking plan. One that includes longevity, prosperity, and emotional wellness.

-Unless you control your circumstances, creating more setbacks wont help. You’ll just have bigger emotional withdraws.

mOOd: More deposits than withdraws

Reference:

Viscott, David. MD. Emotional Resilience. p 282-286. NY: Crown Publishers Inc., 1996.